differential growth shuffle
update August 2008: so when is a relationship negative or codependent? What is a positive, progressive relationship? A co-dependent relationship is one where destructive patterns repeat themselves with no progress, where one or both parties seek to dominate the other. We’ve talked about how we’re seemingly attracted to these qualities in each other: where I tend to be the planner and you tend to like direction.
Though it’s slow going at times in that we’ve seen a lot of repetition of conflict types, I think there is marked progress. The main thing that still draws my attention is how you seem to gravitate toward wanting me to sometimes assist you in choosing directions. I mean you’re obviously a very willful and conscious person in many regards. I sometimes feel that when conflict arises and I’m pushed to take charge, that it’s as though you’re temporarily handing me some of your reigns as you sort through your respective workings. And that …
